DON'T GIVE AWAY and HOARDING

DON'T GIVE AWAY and HOARDING

No amount of things can fill a hole in the heart.

Sandra Felton, THE ORGANIZER LADY®

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Contents of New Ideas for today

1. Message of the Day - DON'T GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER
2. Did You Know?
3. Habit of the Day
4. Family Reminder of the Day
5. Quote of the Day
6. Question of the Day
7. From the Trenches -INSIGHTS ON HOARDING
8. More Info

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1. Message of the Day

DON'T GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER

Don't give somebody else the ON/OFF button of your determination.

A recovering Messie wrote: I have come a long day and have the desire until my husband says something that hurts me emotionally (concerning the house). Then I feel frozen and the thought of no desire seems to come back. I feel like I am in a never ending cycle.

Whoa, cowgirl! Get off that horse!

You need to dismount in two ways.

• Quantify his remarks. That means to look at them in an objective way. Keep a log of what he says and number how it affected you on a scale of 1-5, five being the worst. The fact that you are examining the remarks will make them more intellectual and less emotionally hurtful.

• Decide what to say in response. Make your comments in return unemotional and very different from previous responses. Don't disagree. If he says, "You aren't doing any better than before your started this whole MA program," you may reply with a smile and a shake of your head, "Really! I guess you see things different from me." Then you move on. That way you are putting your opinion on the same level as his. This is only one way to diffuse his comments. You can think of others.

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2. Did You Know?

I've Got to Get Rid of This Stuff!

If “I want to get rid of it but I just can’t” sounds like you and if you are ready to change, this ebooklet is for you. 

This is a self-help program designed to make a significant difference in three weeks' time.

Click here to go to our webpage where you can purchase for $5.00. The ebooklet will be sent to you via email.

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3. Habit of the Day

FOLLOW THE 80/20 RULE - Identify and do only the things that will make a serious impact. The top twenty percent in importance of the necessary things to do will make an eighty percent change in your life.
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4. Family Reminder of the Day

In our family, we don't complain about our responsibilities.

In our family, we always flush the toilet immediately.
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5. Quote of the Day

"If there is a better solution....find it"

Thomas Edison

The Messies Anonymous program is all about finding better solutions.
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6. Question of The Day

Is there any thing, habit, or idea that you are totally unwilling to give up at this time? You want to change badly. But not at the expense of this one thing. If there were such a thing in your life, what would it be? Identifying it clearly is important for improvement.

Tell us by posting on Friends-of-The-Organizer-Lady.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Friends-of-The-Organizer-Lady
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7. From the Trenches

INSIGHTS ON HOARDING

Might I throw out the suggestion that in some cases... each thing is a way of HIDING.

HIDING from pain of some sort, or stress of some sort, seems to be behind obesity in most cases. (I hurt: so I will eat and feel better for a little while)
I am talking here about genuine obesity--not "being chubby."

HIDING is also what we end up doing after we live a lifestyle filled with clutter. Hoarding is collecting gone mad it seems. Part of that might be, as we hoard this or that, there is a feeling of ACCOMPLISHMENT or even of "winning" if we acquire something in the realm of what we choose to hoard.

While we are in "the process" of "acquiring" it can be a very heady feeling....and a feeling that HIDES us from whatever is going on in our life. As long as we turn our attention to what seems comforting or exciting...then we can avert our eyes from the boring, difficult or monotonous tasks ahead of us.

Ysabella On the Messiness-and-Hoarding website.

Note: Not all Messies are hoarders but most keep too much stuff and the ideas given here may apply.
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8. More Info

This is a simple program. We stick with the basics as they are presented in these messages. Keep reading. Keep adding one part of the program at a time.

Repetition is important.
Forward to friends if desired but not to other sites.Read this whole posting or only what you can take in today, then delete it.

Don't forget the daily reminders!!!
Click here to print a copy of the daily Reminders and How-To's 
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MESSIES ANONYMOUS SLOGAN

Please memorize this slogan and post it on your wall.

The secret to success is making very small, yet very consistent, changes.

Or to make it short; Baby steps, baby steps in the right direction.

Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Anonymous

68 © Sandra Felton 2010

THE ORGANIZER LADY® is a trademark of Sandra Felton, founder of Messies Anonymous.

ORGANIZED MIND? and PROGRESS AND PLANS

Read your favorite part if not all.
Weave these ideas into your life.

Sandra Felton, THE ORGANIZER LADY®

Contents of New Ideas for Today

1. Message of the Day - Organized Mind?
2. Did You Know?
3. Habit of the Day
4. Family Reminder of the Day
5. Quote of the Day
6. Question of The Day
7. From the Trenches - Progress and Plans
8. More Info

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1. Message of the Day

Organized House, Organized Mind?

Is it true that if you organize your surroundings, your mind will become more organized? In some respects, yes. Here's how:

When your house or office is more organized

• you become calmer and less scattered because you are less stressed by adrenaline.
• your more organized belongings make it possible for you to move forward more easily with your projects and puts your mind under less pressure.
• eventually you will get more organizational confidence and be willing to take on projects which will help you develop more skills.
• you will apply learned organizing skills successfully to more and more areas of your life and say to yourself, Oh, that's how those organized people have been doing it all along!

What power!

Don't expect to become a total organizational genius as you get your house under control. Do expect to become much more productive with less effort. And that ain't half bad.
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2. Did You Know?

NEW and IMPROVED K.I.S.S. Flipper is available!

The K.I.S.S. (Keep It Super Simple) Flipper has fresh ideas on how to move through your home, day by day, room by room, with simple choices for maintenance and organizing. It will gently guide you through the process of creating clear and shining surfaces throughout out your home!

With the New K.I.S.S. Flipper all you have to do to is FLIP through the spiral-bound, sequentially numbered full-color job idea cards. No more sliding cards into sleeves; the New K.I.S.S. Flipper is ready to use out of the package. When you are ready to begin, make a few simple choices each day from one card and you will be on your way to a clutter-free and well maintained home.

Free BONUS:  Once you order, you will also receive the "K.I.S.S. eBooklet" via email to learn the "Hows and Whys" of the system while you wait for your Flipper, so you will be ready to start the day your Filpper arrives.

$26.95 Introductory Price $20.00 with Free US Postage at this time

Order the NEW and IMPROVED K.I.S.S. Flipper

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I've Got to Get Rid of This Stuff!

If “I want to get rid of it but I just can’t” sounds like you and if you are ready to change, this ebooklet is for you.

This is a self-help program designed to make a significant difference in three weeks time.

Click here to go to our webpage where you can purchase for $5.00. The ebooklet will be sent to you via email.

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3. Habit of the Day

STOW AS YOU GO!

AVOID CLUTTER - Don't pick it up later; put it up now.

This is probably the most powerful habit of all. It is what keeps your organized friends neat without seeming to have to work at it.
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4. Family Reminder of the Day

In our family, we put dishes into the dishwasher, not the sink.

In our family, we take responsibility for completing the chores assigned to us.
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5. Quote of the Day

"The key is not to prioritize what's on your
schedule, but to schedule your priorities."

Stephan R. Covey
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6. Question of The Day

Does your disorganized lifestyle interfere with your social or family life? Do you isolate yourself because of the clutter? If the clutter were gone, what would do you different from now to connect to people?.

Tell us by posting on Friends-of-The-Organizer-Lady.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Friends-of-The-Organizer-Lady
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7. From the Trenches

PROGRESS AND PLANS!

I'm feeling so great about my participation in this group! I'm making so much progress and am so proud of myself!

My DH and I have been having breakfast together every morning since I'm getting up before my family. Our 2 yr. old DD still sleeps late, so that's our "couple time" and it makes all the difference.

I fix him a "good" (read fattening) breakfast and I eat my healthy cereal; we do our devotion from our marriage-devotional bible and read several chapters together; we go over what we have scheduled for our day (my chores and errands, and his workload).

I am so happy with the progress of my home as well. The kitchen looks fabulous and I haven't had a single dirty dish in my sink in over a week! They go straight into the dishwasher..it's so easy..why has it taken me so long to figure out?

Yesterday, I spent 15 minutes in mine and DD's shared walk-in closet. It was by far the worst room in the house.

I started by organizing the shoes, DD's on her side and mine on my side. Then I picked up all of the clothes off of the floor and put them in the dirty laundry which, by the way I finished before 8 o'clock this morning.

I only spent 15 minutes in there, but it already looks presentable!

I'm so excited about getting my entire house decluttered and peaceful for the first time ever! I might treat myself to my favorite lunch today, Japanese.

Hope my progress motivates you all. If I can do it, anyone can!

(Thanks to Rachel W.)
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8. More Info

This is a simple program. We stick with the basics as they are presented in these messages. Keep reading. Keep adding one part of the program at a time.

Repetition is important.
Forward to friends if desired but not to other sites. Read this whole posting or only what you can take in today, then delete it.

Don't forget the daily reminders!!!
Click here to print a copy of the  daily Reminders and How-To's 
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MESSIES ANONYMOUS SLOGAN

Please memorize this slogan and post it on your wall.

The secret to success is making 
very small, yet very consistent, changes.

Or to make it short; Baby steps, baby steps in the right direction.

Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Anonymous

67 © Sandra Felton 2010

THE ORGANIZER LADY® is a trademark of Sandra Felton, founder of Messies Anonymous.

THE FAITH FACTOR and REAPING REWARDS

Spending less time and energy 

on the mechanics of living gives 

more time for more significant 

pursuits.

Sandra Felton, THE ORGANIZER LADY®




Contents of New Ideas for Today

1. Message of the Day - THE FAITH FACTOR
2. Did You Know?
3. Habit of the Day
4. Family Reminder of the Day
5. Quote of the Day
6. Question of The Day
7. From the Trenches - REAPING REWARDS
8. More Info

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1. Message of the Day

THE FAITH FACTOR

For some, their responsibility to God is an important reason to organize. Some feel that they have an obligation to "clean up their act" because disorganization interferes with a higher calling of God on their lives. They can't entertain others, form friendships, or serve others as they desire. In other words, they cannot fulfill the purpose for which they were created. Because of that they maintain a special focus as they go about making changes.

They think this way:

It is for myself, yes.

It is for my family, yes.

But overarching all, it is for Him ---

and that makes all the difference.

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2. Did You Know?

NEW and IMPROVED K.I.S.S. Flipper is available!

The K.I.S.S. (Keep It Super Simple) Flipper has fresh ideas on how to move through your home, day by day, room by room, with simple choices for maintenance and organizing. It will gently guide you through the process of creating clear and shining surfaces throughout out your home!

With the New K.I.S.S. Flipper all you have to do to is FLIP through the spiral-bound, sequentially numbered full-color job idea cards. No more sliding cards into sleeves; the New K.I.S.S. Flipper is ready to use out of the package. When you are ready to begin, make a few simple choices each day from one card and you will be on your way to a clutter-free and well maintained home.

Free BONUS:  Once you order, you will also receive the "K.I.S.S. eBooklet" via email to learn the "Hows and Whys" of the system while you wait for your Flipper, so you will be ready to start the day your Filpper arrives.

$26.95 Introductory Price $20.00 with Free US Postage at this time

Order the NEW and IMPROVED K.I.S.S. Flipper

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I've Got to Get Rid of This Stuff!

If “I want to get rid of it but I just can’t” sounds like you and if you are ready to change, this ebooklet is for you. This is a self-help program designed to make a significant difference in three weeks time.

Click here to go to our webpage where you can purchase 

for $5.00. The ebooklet will be sent to you via email.

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3. Habit of the Day

FOLLOW THE RULE OF TEN (MINUTES)

Set a timer for ten minutes and attack a hot spot with a vengeance. Some call it The Ten Minute Tidy.
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4. Family Reminder of the Day

In our family, we put dishes into the dishwasher, not the sink.

In our family, we take responsibility for completing the chores assigned to us.
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5. Quote of the Day

Put things in order ...
and the God of love and peace
will be with you.

2 Corinthians 13:11
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6. Question of the Day

Does your disorganized lifestyle interfere with your social or family life? Do you isolate yourself because of the clutter? If the clutter were gone, what
would do you different from now to connect to people?.

Tell us by posting on Friends-of-The-Organizer-Lady.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Friends-of-The-Organizer-Lady
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7. From the Trenches

REAPING REWARDS

Tonight/day was amazing. I walked through the house and enjoyed it. I don't even remember the last time I felt like that. I didn't have a list in my mind. I enjoyed that things were organized and clean. I loved walking by the 4 back rooms and seeing them all looking good....beds made and floor vacuumed, the kitchen, living room and dining room look great. For the first time I can see more what has been done instead of what needs to be done. Watched 2 movies with family today without a bit of guilt. Meals were already organized. ... Wow! It is wonderful to finally have things organized. It makes things easier and "yummier". I love this feeling. Of course, tomorrow am.... I will start again on my To Do list.... but it is wonderful to start reaping the rewards.

(Congratulations and thanks to a happy Messie)
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8. More Info

This is a simple program. We stick with the basics as they are presented in these messages. Keep reading. Keep adding one part of the program at a time.

Repetition is important. Forward to friends if desired but not to other sites. Read this whole posting or only what you can take in today, then delete it.

Don't forget the daily reminders!!!
Click here to print a copy of the daily Reminders and How-To's 
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MESSIES ANONYMOUS SLOGAN

Please memorize this slogan and post it on your wall.

The secret to success is making very small, yet very consistent, changes.

Or to make it short; Baby steps, baby steps in the right direction.

Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Anonymous

66 © Sandra Felton 2010

THE ORGANIZER LADY® is a trademark of Sandra Felton, founder of Messies Anonymous.

THE BASICS and GETTING HELP

You can't go in your everyday life where you haven't gone in your dreams.

Sandra Felton, THE ORGANIZER LADY®

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Contents of Ideas for Today

1. Message of the Day - BASICS
2. Did You Know?
3. Habit of the Day
4. Family Reminder of the Day
5. Quote of the Day
6. Question of The Day
7. From the Trenches - GETTING HELP
8. More Help
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1. Message of the Day

THE BASIC ABC'S

A. Attitude - Crystallize what you REALLY want. Make your dream shine by writing it down then read it daily. Do whatever it takes to pump up your keen desire for a beautiful and orderly way of life.

B. Be Aware - What do you really need? If you need an overall whole house change use the Mt. Vernon or Mt. Vesuvius methods you find at
http://www.messies.com/index.php/component/content/article?id=11

If you need only isolated change, identify what your hot spots are and make a plan to tackle them.

C. Change Behavior - Nothing becomes different until you do. Altered behavior is the key. Make small consistent changes and, like snow in the spring, your clutter will begin to melt slowly away.
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2. Did You Know?

I've Got to Get Rid of This Stuff!

If “I want to get rid of it but I just can’t” sounds like you and if you are ready to change, this ebooklet is for you.

This is a self-help program designed to make a significant difference in three weeks time.

Click here to go to our webpage where you can purchase for $5.00. The ebooklet will be sent to you via email.

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3. Habit of the Day

JUST DO IT - Do not wait till you feel like it. Just move your body through the motions like a robot if that is all you can do. Face the fact that some things do not inspire. Surrender to the concept of boredom. Put on a taped story as your work and listen only as you work on your house. The story will pull you back
to the work. It is nice to want to. But do not wait for the humor to hit you. Just do it.
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4. Family Reminder of the Day

In our family, we don't drop our things when we come in the door. We take them and put them where they belong.

In our family, we put dirty clothes into the hamper as soon as we take them off.
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5. Quote of the Day

"Everything that slows us down and forces patience,
everything that sets us back into the slow cycles of nature, is a help."

May Sarton, American Writer
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6. Question of the Day

Does your disorganized lifestyle interfere with your social or family life? Do you isolate yourself because of the clutter? If the clutter were gone, what would do you different from now to connect to people?.

Tell us by posting on Friends-of-The-Organizer-Lady.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Friends-of-The-Organizer-Lady
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7. From the Trenches

GETTING HELP

There is a 14 year old boy who is looking for a way to make a little extra money and is willing to do whatever needs to be done. I've hired him for tomorrow and Wednesday from 12:30 - 5:30 p.m. and am trying to figure out where I want him to start. I keep thinking that my spare bedroom (which is supposed to be my scrap booking room) really needs a lot of help. You can hardly walk into this room. I don't know if I should just have him move EVERYTHING out of that room into the living room, and if I should start sorting things that way.

Don't overlook unlikely sources of outside help. If you have hesitated to hire someone, gather up your courage and let that idea seep into your thinking.
You will be surprised how important it can be for you.

But, whatever you do, don't empty the room. You will create a bigger problem than you have now. Make a plan. Group the items into white boxes to containerize and organize the items as you deal with them.
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8. MORE HELP

This is a simple program. We stick with the basics as they are presented in these messages. Keep reading. Keep adding one part of the program at a time.

Repetition is important.
Forward to friends if desired but not to other sites.
Read this whole posting or only what you can take in today, then delete it.

Don't forget the daily reminders!!!
Click here to print a copy

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MESSIES ANONYMOUS SLOGAN

Please memorize this slogan and post it on your wall.

The secret to success is making very small, yet very consistent, changes.

Or to make it short; Baby steps, baby steps in the right direction.

Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Anonymous

65 © Sandra Felton 2010

THE ORGANIZER LADY® is a trademark of Sandra Felton, founder of Messies Anonymous.